Stronger

'It gets easier,' she said. Not because she knows, but because she wants it be true. I know that she cares, but I'm also aware that my grief is awkward for her, inconvenient.  She wishes my tears away: 'It will get easier.' But the truth is, it doesn't. I understand why she would like to …

Keepsakes and gifts

Just after we shared the sad news about our daughters, some lovely friends delivered to our doorstop a box of incredibly thoughtful gifts to remember our girls. There was jewellery, candles to light in their memory, keyrings engraved with their names and birthdates and even more. Their kindness and thoughtfulness left me speechless. Still now it's hard to put into …

A new way of seeing

I had my own notion of grief. I thought it was the sad time that followed the death of someone you love. And you had to push through it to get to the other side. But I'm learning there is no other side. There is no pushing through. But rather, there is absorption. Adjustment. Acceptance. …